Time To Take Charge: 3 Tips for Being More Confident
Tired of being told that confidence is something you’re born with? We’re here to debunk that myth and tell you exactly how you can learn to be more confident!
Most of us have heard about confidence being something we should all strive to have, from a young age, well into adulthood. Some of us are naturally confident and know how to hold the attention of a room. It doesn’t come naturally for others, but should we let that hinder us?
Well, we say no! Just because it’s not something you were born knowing how to do, it doesn’t have to be a limiting factor. Being confident is a skill you can learn with some simple tips implemented in your daily life. You might find that a few are common things you should know how to do anyway! It’s about being a little bit more intentional in your approach, that’s all.
If you want to develop your confidence in all areas of life, whether for work or your social life, here are some top tips on how:
Remember you are an individual
Before looking at basic strategies you can start implementing, one of the most crucial skills in building confidence is developing your mindset. Much of it has to do with mental resilience more than anything else. Instead of comparing yourself to others, you must remember that you are an individual with your own unique skillset and qualities that no one else can replicate, no matter how much they might try! There is only one of you, and that’s amazing.
Keeping that potent thought in mind, especially when you may feel as though you aren’t good enough, will automatically boost confidence, but the key is that you must believe it wholeheartedly. A good practice to begin is to write down a few positive affirmations that you think about yourself and want to remind yourself of every morning. It might be something you like about yourself physically or a quality or trait you are proud of.
Whatever they may be, try writing it down in a journal or even on a post-it note, and place it somewhere you will be sure to see it every morning. It might be your phone lock screen, on your bedside table, or even the mirror in the bathroom! Wherever you choose, the important thing is that it is one of the first reminders you see in the morning to start your day off positively.
As you work on your mental mindset, it’s also important to factor in wellness. It seems pretty obvious, but it comes as no surprise that if you feel well mentally and physically, you’ll also feel more confident about yourself, be comfortable in your own skin, and feel much more capable when facing and overcoming challenges.
It might not seem like an obvious link to make, but it’s worth evaluating a few things within your lifestyle. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating well and at reasonable times? Are you getting daily exercise every day for at least 30 minutes? Are you letting yourself take breaks when you need them?
These questions will help you reflect and see where you could improve your self-care. It may be just one thing, or it may be more than one. Whatever your findings are, it’s worth investing more time in the neglected areas and building a better routine for them.
And if you don’t succeed the first time, try to remind yourself of your affirmations – these things don’t happen overnight, and that’s okay! The kinder you are to yourself, the easier it’ll become to build resilience and perseverance, two other skills closely linked to becoming more confident.
Practice in small steps
Although diving in headfirst can sometimes be great when trying to overcome a particular challenge, sometimes it’s also a good idea to just take it in small steps, and we think the latter will work better here.
As we mentioned before, building resilience is essential to confidence. In a more literal sense, that will come when you push your boundaries and try things that make you uncomfortable. It’s not pleasant at first, but the more you try something, the more you warm up to it and feel much better about approaching it the next time!
Taking small steps to work towards something bigger takes time but is worth it in the long run. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, joining a local club of interest might help. Attending workshops is also a great way to begin interacting with strangers without too much pressure. Or perhaps even try a new sport or hobby you’ve wanted to do for ages!
If you want to keep it even lower pressure, why not try something on a smaller scale, like going to the cinema or having lunch or dinner alone? Uncomfortable at first, but the more you try, the easier it’ll be. You’d be surprised at how quickly you might lean into some of these activities and perhaps even begin to enjoy them!